"Yendi avan velaikku poyi 5 varusham aayiduthe avanukku jathakam edukalaiya". " illaimma, antha kadankaaranntta athai pathi pesa enakku bayama irukku. intha thulukkachiya thaan kattippennu otha kaalla nippanonnu thonrathu" "Nee bayapadaathe naan pesi pakkaren avanntta". This is the conversation between my mother and grand ma which happened one sunday evening when i was starting to leave for my work place. Grand ma called me and both of us were seated in the oonjal in the hall. Mom was in the kitchen (standing behind the door) supposed to be doing some work. So the help of my chithi who is very close to me was sought. Next saturday evening when i was back home, chithi was there. I asked chithi had i known you are coming i would have come to your house and picked you up. ( she was residing in a town which is on the way to my vilage) She replied i came here yesterday itself. after the tiffin and things are over both of us went out to the only Pillayar temple in that village. Slowly she started " we want to see you get married. Do you have any girl in mind? if such girl is there tell me i will talk to athimber and akka so that you wont have any problem in marrying her. If she is from other caste or religion dont tell me i wont help you though i like you a lot and want to help you marry a girl you like". She was very much relieved when i said i dont have any ( like so many boys of today i was also not considered as a husband material by many girls) and my only condition is that i will see only one girl and that girl wil be my wife. dont want to select from a group of girls. this was duly conveyed to my parents and hunting of a bride for me began. horoscopes received given to josier for matching which were promptly rejected by him. Exasperated, at one point of time my dad asked the josier whether he has any daughters of marriageable age and if he had he is ready to take that girl as daughter in law even without matching the horoscope. fortunately or unfortunately the josier's daughter was already married. After filtering finally one girl was selected. Parents, chithi, brothers excepting me went there and saw the girl and all of them were satisfied. The next sunday was fixed as the bride seeing date. Meanwhile, people who saw that girl were telling me how beautiful that girl is, how wealthy her father is how they own a house in a busy area in Kumbakonam and their intention came clear that i should not say no to this girl (even though i told them i vl see only one girl they hd their own doubts). Sunday came. Again all of them, this time including me and my friend, went to the girl's house. A lot of people were there, introduced to me and my family. Every face looked to me like a chinese one and i had no idea who was sister, who was mother, who was periyamma, who was periyamma's daughter, son, husband and so on. The first time i started shaking my head to say yes ( yet to stop). Then they brought the girl. Everything offered to us for eating was prepared by the girl, that was how we were informed by all those standing beside her. If such was the case the girl would not have been there as is fresh from the bath. I told my friend to check up whether i can have a talk with the girl alone, he was told by my father that my intention was wrong and the people wont like that. So instead of talking to that i ended up talking with her sister who was in her second standard. This happened on May 22nd and the marriage was fixed on June 29th. I tried to contact her or atleast see her face once during the intervening period but failed miserably. The next time i saw her was on the day before the marriage during maappillai azhaippu.

One fine morning, i received a call. Sir i have received your son's horoscope and it matches with my daughter's. When i can come over to talk to you about the modalities and your expectations. Then i was working in Salem. So i told him there is nothing to talk about modalities or seer. My only condition is that the boy and the girl should like each other. Will inform you the date when we can come for bride seeing. So i returned back to salem. That day ws my mother's 6th month ceremony and we were at Salem. That morning i again received a phone call Sir today, being a sunday my daughter is available. Will it be possible for you to come over here for bride seeing. I told him i was in Salem and however will come back to you. So i phone up my son and my in laws who were in chennai and told them to proceed with bride seeing without our being present. Went on well my son said yes while my father in is guarded and told them my daughter and son in law will come and tell you about it. But they dont know about my son's concurrence was conveyed to them already. The marriage was fixed in next may i..e. 7 months later. Meanwhile my son used to report to his mother amma today we went to this temple that temple to this restaurant to that restaurant. In April 2007 we bought a new flat and the house warming ceremony was conducted and my future daughter in law conducted poojas in the place of my son. i.e. she conducted the poojas in April but the marriage was conducted in May only.

As for my second son is concerned, he used to take her to besant nagar beach daily (where she was living) and they will talk till 9 have tiffin there at her home and will return to our house for sleeping. this happened till they got married. ‪#‎rskpolambals‬#