Even before the eyes become dry about Swathi's death another girl lost her life. I consider both as murders one direct and another indirect. Two kids i respect most, Ms. Aparna Kumar and Ms. Manasa Chakrapani Iyengar have posted about the death of the girls. While one asked why a male should always safeguard a girl the other asked why the society blames a girl for her nude pictures. Both are very pertinent questions. These posts kindled my thinking and here i have started my rambling. First to Aparna Kumar. Knowingly or unknowingly we are in a patriarchal society. Though there is a system of matriarchal society in Kerala even there the safety of the girls rested with male only. You may want to change the system but it cannot be done overnight. Man is considered to have more physical strength than woman and this resulted in the system of male protecting the female. Though the girls nowadays are overcoming their physical difficulties to learn some defensive acts like Karate still long way to go. How many girls of today are ready to go in for karate classes. With continuing murders and rapes being reported all around the country nowadays i dont think any parent will disagree with their daughter if she wants to go in for such classes. First let us spread awareness among girls to be on their guard. I also read a comment why the girls should safeguard themselves and why not the boys not been controlled? a good question to ask. but practically will it work. We cannot segregate people that this man is a murderer, a rapist and this man is a gentleman by the looks. There are well looking criminals and ugliest gentlemen in our country. As long as the girls are being looked as an object of pleasure you cannot stop this. Enact as many laws as possible, you cannot prevent this. In our days there was a moral education class every week and we were taught how to be a gentle man. Dont know why those classes were stopped. Those days porn was available in the form of books only and most of us cannot afford to buy it because of its cost. ( we never heard of pocket money those days) And just singing love songs will attract the stick from the teacher/ parents. Though we detested those things then, now i understand the values behind it. I have not raped nor never will rape. I have been taught by my teachers/ parents how to respect a woman. Now with porn available through mobiles. No amount of government ban is going to stop those sites. Like torrent sites which comes with a different name each and every time it was banned the porn sites are going to do the same. Not only in India but also throughout the world looking at a woman as a pleasure object exists. The number of porn sites stands witness to it. So instead of expecting the government to stop such people, let us better equip ourselves and use all the available resources including trusted men to protect our girls. For Manasa Chakrapani Iyengar my answer is this. The society is yet to improve to that level. In this incident what pains me most is the news (I pray let it be false) that her own parents have not believed that it was not her picture. When people are going to believe their own wards who they bring up as per their wishes. If they are not able to trust their own child then it is their fault of not educating the child properly. So kids direct your anger to your brains and not to your hearts.‪#‎rskpolambals‬#