I was little bit confused what to write. whether to continue what i have written yesterday or go in for a new one. Gone through what I have written yesterday and felt it was little bit inadequate. To satisfy myself i am continuing further or elaborating further. Pray Sadguru to bless you all with a wonderful, peaceful,healthy and cemented relationship. Be a happy couple and make every one around you happy.

Now i can say i belong to upper middle class. So financially no problems for me or my sons. My sons are very much attached to us (rather to their mom) so we did not have the fear of losing them or their leaving us in a home. We know, even if we demand they wont oblige us. When we wanted to purchase two flats one for each of them, both of them including their wives told us purchase as many flats as you like but there should be only one kitchen. In most of the families this type of cohesion which is lacking. The oldies have a fear that their ward may leave them with some home. And this fear is more to those who do not have a strong financial backup. They feel completely at the mercy of their children. In my house i told my children what i am earning when they were doing their 10th and 9th standard. so they know how much investments i have and took it upon them to support me financially whenever it is necessary and at times when not necessary also. The second thing is they fear to share their ward with their daughter in law. This is a ticklish thing. My advise to elders is if you cant understand a person who was with you for nearly 25 years then how do you expect to understand a girl who has just entered into your household. Moreover the parents of the sons are having one more advantage which even the original parents of the girl did not have. Yah till then you did not have a daughter. Now you got a girl who can be your daughter and can be with you day in and day out for your life. It is for you to utilise this opportunity. Once she accepts you as her foster parents you need not fear anything.

For young girls who are entering a new household, the best way to one's heart is through their stomach. But dont take this literally. most of the MILs dont want to hand over the kitchen duties to their DILs as they think it is their domain. So start helping them in the kitchen initially. Whether it is needed or not seek their permission for anything and everything. In the course of time they will hand over the kitchen to you and simply tell you ok ma. you need not ask us for everything. Once grand children born you will be completely free.