The murder of Ms.Swathi has shocked most people. So many people are posting their mind on this. Some are blaming the government machinery, some the individuals and some blame themselves. Some people likeAshwini Varadharajan appealed to all of us not to cast aspersions on that girls. Her post left me speechless and it is from a person who knows the murdered girl and posted by a person with pain of bereavement and pain of her friend being sullied after her death. Sorry Ashwini there are people like that also and we have to live with them also. Cry your heart out and forget those comments and posts. These posts made me think of something else. A murder can happen to person belonging to any male or female or transgender. Their families and friends are going to be devastated. Pardon me for saying this. There is an old saying in tamil "Uppum thanniyum ulliranga thuyaram poividum" meaning time heals. But there is a crime in which the victims were only girls. Not only the family and friends of the victim but also the girl herself is going to be devastated because of that. The adage time heals is not going to work in this case. The victim suffers not only physically but also mentally. The scar is going to be with her all through her life. Yes i am talking about rape which i consider more heinous than murder. I feel even a prostitute, who is ready to bed anybody for consideration, has a right a refuse a person's advances for the simple reason she did not like him. Nowadays more laws are in the offing like marital rape and so on. How to prevent it. As Manikandan Sridharan and one more person whose name i forgot feels the government cannot appoint a body guard to each and every person. Fixing of CCTV cameras may help in arresting the culprit but wont help in prevention of the crime. India is a country where any amount of preaching is not going to help. So we have to be on our guard against such crimes. Again the big question comes. How? These are the things which comes to my mind immediately.
For Boys first: 1. Porno sites and books will give you an idea that every girl is willing and ready to go to bed with you. It is like any other cinema and novel. Not real. Thinking they are true and acting upon that idea will severely harm you and the girl.
2. I am 65 and know what is a consensual sex is. It will be really a wonderful experience if the physical activity is driven by heartfelt affection and love for the girl and vice versa. You can never enjoy a forced sex even with a prostitute.
3. With all the incest stories available in porn sites i feel it is worthless if i say consider them as your sister, mom etc. Don't consider them as your relative but consider them as a human being like you with all the ecstasies and pains you feel.
4. A maximum 15 minute act is going to leave a permanent scar on her and your future may be spoiled.
5. We always have the choice to ignore provocative dress and actions. Please also remember the body parts of the woman which is visible to you is there for the specific purpose of feeding a child in the safest way possible.
6. Try to go to a ladies ward in a hospital where you will understand what a woman undergoes. Once you see their suffering you will never get the idea of raping a girl during your lifetime.
2. I am 65 and know what is a consensual sex is. It will be really a wonderful experience if the physical activity is driven by heartfelt affection and love for the girl and vice versa. You can never enjoy a forced sex even with a prostitute.
3. With all the incest stories available in porn sites i feel it is worthless if i say consider them as your sister, mom etc. Don't consider them as your relative but consider them as a human being like you with all the ecstasies and pains you feel.
4. A maximum 15 minute act is going to leave a permanent scar on her and your future may be spoiled.
5. We always have the choice to ignore provocative dress and actions. Please also remember the body parts of the woman which is visible to you is there for the specific purpose of feeding a child in the safest way possible.
6. Try to go to a ladies ward in a hospital where you will understand what a woman undergoes. Once you see their suffering you will never get the idea of raping a girl during your lifetime.
For the Girls: 1. Don't become so close to anybody unless you absolutely trust that person irrespective of their gender.
2. I am not advising you how to dress but you yourself decide how to dress and see to that it is not provocative.
3. Avoid being alone, unless otherwise absolutely warranted, with a male however trustful he is
4. There are immobilising sprays available in the market and hope your hand bags are big enough to hold such sprays.
5. Learn minimum defense like karate etc.
6. Never lose your courage under any circumstances and dont be afraid to shout at the top of your voice if the situation warrants.
2. I am not advising you how to dress but you yourself decide how to dress and see to that it is not provocative.
3. Avoid being alone, unless otherwise absolutely warranted, with a male however trustful he is
4. There are immobilising sprays available in the market and hope your hand bags are big enough to hold such sprays.
5. Learn minimum defense like karate etc.
6. Never lose your courage under any circumstances and dont be afraid to shout at the top of your voice if the situation warrants.
For the parents:
1. Teach your daughter about good touch and bad touch at an early age itself
2. Make it a point to teach her Karate like things
3. Teach your wards about what is sex and how to handle it when they are around the age of 10 or11
4. Teach your sons that the body of the woman is not a pleasure object
5. Teach him how to respect a woman what is a gentleman's behaviour
1. Teach your daughter about good touch and bad touch at an early age itself
2. Make it a point to teach her Karate like things
3. Teach your wards about what is sex and how to handle it when they are around the age of 10 or11
4. Teach your sons that the body of the woman is not a pleasure object
5. Teach him how to respect a woman what is a gentleman's behaviour
Only these are the things coming to my mind right now.
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