Most of my posts were spurred from the post of some one. The other day it was Aparna Kumar and Manasa Chakrapani Iyengar. Today it wasSivaranjani Kumar.It is not entirely true if i say this is in response to her post but this post is the result of some of the comments for that post. Some were passive some were hard hitting comments but were interesting to read. Not judging any body including Sivaranjani Kumar and others just going back like a time machine. My great grand mother never talked to her son in law directly. All the communications will be only through her daughter i.e. my grand ma. She used to call her husband 'Aandavane' and great grand pa used to call her as mangalam amma (Mangalam being my grand ma's name).My grand ma used to talk to my father but she will be standing behind the doors in the kitchen and my father will be sitting on a bench in the hall. I never saw her address my grand pa. If we are there we will be asked to call thatha in where she will tell him or if we are not available she will go and stand or sit before him wherever he was. My grand dad used call her adiye. My mother will stand before her son in law but the communication will be through my sister. My mother will say whatever she wants to say but her looks will be on my sister and my brother in law used to reply on the same way, My father used to call my mother amma and my mother used to call my father " Yennaa". In my case it was little bit different. Both my name and my wife's name is same (I am Santhanakrishnan and she is Santhanalakshmi) So whenever my mother in law calls Santhanam we used to get confused whom she is calling and both will answer. My sons' mother in laws call them with their name. In the entire 5 generations none absolutely none asked for freedom and not even there is any mention. Each one has decided this is my work and did it to perfection. I still remember my grand ma crying when my grand dad died " Ennai rajathi madhiri vachurundhele" nnu. Whatever space was available to them they enjoyed it to the hilt. ( of course none of them my great grand ma, grand ma, my mother lived under a mother in law. My wife is the first one to have a mother in law in the form of my mother) As i was working in a different town an my father in a different one we lived separately reducing the meeting time and resultant mil dil fights. As far as my daughters in law are concerned i have already written about them. So i feel the freedom for the women is already there and they enjoyed it and wantonly and willingly surrendered some rights for the sake of their children and their love for their husbands. All feminists are welcome for male bashing. ‪#‎rskpolambals‬#